How to Navigate A Single Mom’s Mother’s Day
We’re well into the 21st century, and the rise of single-parent families means single moms aren’t alone in the world. Emotional support and camaraderie are out there, along with other perks like carpools and swapped babysitting nights.
But friends, sisters and even mothers of single moms are often unsure how to celebrate Mother’s Day. Even some single moms find it awkward sometimes. Here are tips to help everyone have a memorable Mother’s Day.
If You’re a Single Mother
• Take control. This is your day, so treat yourself with a pedicure, fancy dinner with family or girls’ night out. Make sure to do this for yourself especially if your kids aren’t old enough to do it and you’re feeling overwhelmed.
• Show your mom some appreciation. Calling your mother is usually a good thing for both of you! If you haven’t talked to her in a long time, there’s no better day to make amends or just to see how she’s doing. If you already have a great relationship, it will still make her feel special.
• Invite friends and family over. Make sure you get together with a friend, sister or another single mother sometime today. It will lift you up more than you might think!
If You’re the Mother of a Single Mother
• Give her a kids-free weekend. Those of us who haven’t been single moms have no clue how difficult it can be. Give your daughter a break from the kids and offer to take care of them while she gets some much needed rest and relaxation.
• Get sentimental. If you’re separated by distance, send a card or order flower delivery from a company like FTD. Gift cards are sure to be appreciated as well. And most of us never truly outgrow stuffed animals, so send them along for the ride too!
• Show encouragement. A little encouragement goes a long way—especially from mom! Let your daughter know she’s doing a good job with a heartfelt gift, like a personalized card or a scrapbook filled with photos of her little ones. Remind her of all the things she does right as a mom and how good her children are turning out.
If You’re a Friend or Close Family Member of a Single Mother
• Divvy up your time. If you live far away from your own mother, or don’t plan to spend the whole day with her, consider spending time with a single friend. Having someone to go on an outing with and help take care of the kids can make for a much less stressful day for your friend (and let’s face it, Mother’s Day is stressful for most single moms).
• Turn it into girl’s day! If your friend’s children are all girls, consider a girl’s day out. It doesn’t’ have to be anything big. Ultimately, it’s the love and friendship you share that will matter more than anything.
• Host a playdate. If you also have children, consider hosting a playdate on Mother’s Day. La Petite Academy has tips (all including prior planning) on hosting a successful playdate. While the kids are having fun you’ll be able to catch up with your friend.
Jessica Williams is Consolidated Credit’s Marketing Communications New Media Coordinator. As a member of the education team, Jessica focuses on helping consumers make better financial decisions while living debt-free. She has previously worked with Take Stock In Children, where she was a mentor and communications specialist, and SouthPromo.com, where she managed community relations, event planning, marketing, and public relations. Jessica attended both the University of Florida and the University of Central Florida where she received her B.S. in Interpersonal/Organizational Communications and Marketing. Connect with Jessica on Google+.